Online dating feels so convenient: profiles, photos, a little harmless flirting in the chat. It almost seems like the perfect way to meet someone! But as soon as it comes to meeting face-to-face, many people feel anxious — or even want to run away. Let’s figure out where this fear comes from and what to do about it.

Chatting online, a person is often a “better” version of himself/herself: people have time to think about what to say, choose the most flattering photo, hide flaws. Then comes the thought: “What if he or she is nothing like in the chat?” — and the meeting gets postponed.

For others, the fear works the opposite way: they’re less afraid of being disappointed by their date, and more afraid of disappointing them. “What if I seem boring?” or “What if I look worse in real life?” — these thoughts often stop people from taking the next step.

Safety is another big factor. Online dating comes with risks: scammers, hidden motives, even “double lives.” That’s why it’s natural to feel cautious about meeting in person.

Here are a few tips to make things safer:

- Choose a public place for the first meeting — a café, park, or another open space.

- Stay in control: tell friends where you’re going, set up a check-in call.

- Use technology to your advantage: share your live location on your phone or use a personal GPS tracker.

Feeling a little wary before the first meeting is completely normal. Plan ahead and choose the right setting so that safety worries don’t distract you from actually connecting.

Everyone has their own fears — shaped by past experiences, breakups, or even stories they’ve heard from others. Fear of rejection also plays a role. It’s easier in chat: if the conversation fades, it doesn’t hurt as much. But hearing “This isn’t going to work” face-to-face is much tougher. That’s why many people stall or delay meeting until they feel sure the other person is genuinely interested.

Sometimes, one person pushes for a meeting faster than the other is ready for. But needing more time to build trust and confidence is completely valid.

Psychologists recommend keeping first dates light and simple — coffee, a short walk, a gallery visit, or even a quick 20-minute “grab a bite” meetup. These feel much easier than a formal sit-down dinner. A relaxed setting takes the pressure off.

And be honest. You can even say: “I’m a little nervous, it’s been a while since I’ve been on a date.” It takes away some of the tension — and honestly, it sounds endearing.

Don’t set the bar too high. The first date isn’t an exam — it’s just a step toward getting to know each other better. Don’t put pressure on yourself. Let things unfold naturally until you feel comfortable.

And keep in mind: it might just turn into a great story.

Feeling nervous before meeting is perfectly normal. But real life is always more exciting than chat — and the only way to know if there’s real chemistry is to meet in person. If you don’t demand too much from the first date and show yourself a little care, it can actually turn out light, easy, and fun.